Hello. I am considering dipping a toe into the shark infested (supposedly) waters of online dating but need hand hold.
Mid-40s and going right on through separation with my partner. Because of young ones, problems into the relationship and thus on, have forfeit touch with many friends that are old the majority are families/partnered anyhow. We home based and merely don’t believe i will fulfill brand new individuals IRL so online it might need to be.
But therefore, therefore frightened down by horror tales and simply all this stuff about people being flaky, perhaps maybe not whatever they appear, untruthful, high-risk circumstances bla bla that is bla. I’m not sure if I got a dense skin that is enough do so.
I am maybe perhaps not prepared for a relationship yet (but can be at some time) but want to date to obtain some “skills” (god that seems awful – in the discussion, reading individuals, exercising what sort of individual I would like to be with etc etc) and perhaps for something no-string’s ish. But that seems a bit frightening too if I don’t have the “skills” at protecting myself (have recently come out of 2 semi-abusive – emotionally – relationships). I am really bad at flirting, attracting men etc who can respect me personally, have actually constantly wound up in relationships where these people were keen on me personally than vice versa, I am afraid. But do not desire to be alone.
Help! Please let me know, if we drop this road, which are the key methods for remaining sane and safe and making good judgements. (more…)